Above, you will find a video of a white woman weaponizing her voice against a Black man after she called him a n****r and flipped him off. The reality is that she endangered his life by cutting him off and brake-checking him. How do white women weaponize their voice? White women weaponize their voice through tears. White women are extended the opportunity of possessing the social construct of femininity. They are often seen as damsels in distress and it seems they know from their very birth that all they have to do is cry and they will be saved. This same opportunity isn’t granted to Black women. Instead, Black women have been represented in society as being the complete opposite. If we were to have this very meltdown, the adjectives that would come to mind would not be what represents femininity. Instead, it would be what represents anger and hate. They use our skin as an excuse to silence us. We are not granted this opportunity to be saved because society has stated we are not deserving of that. Then in the same breath, will verbally and visually tear us down for being too much. Too angry, too emotional, too unstable. Us coming to tears threatens the existence of the social constructs they created to benefit them. So, they just had to do something. And we fall for it. Black men continue to police Black women’s tones while praising the white woman for stealing the words of a Black soul. We invite them to this fictional representation of “the cookout” for saying things Black women have said for years. We erase the voices of Black women to make others feel comfortable. Why should Black women have to experience discomfort to make everyone else in the world comfortable? Why do we continue to have to fight to exist in this world? Without us, many of you wouldn’t be here. We birthed this nation.

With Love,


Published by This is Tatyana

I am a new blogger, current MSW student, and a special educator. I am also someone who is battling mental health. Through this blog, my hope is to engage others in discussions regarding mental health, systemic racism, Black women and children, and the intersections of social justice and education.

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  1. Without us, no one would would exist. Black women are the origins of life and really all things. Fashion, art, everything. I felt so triggered watching the video. White women always have the right to cry. When black women cry, every one becomes a critic. Often we can’t cry because of numbness.

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